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Question: I'm a Christian and I've been plagued by poor self-esteem all my life. I know it's rooted in how my father treated me as child. Knowing that hasn't helped. Reading books hasn't either. Can anything help? Answer: I believe how you see yourself can be changed. It takes work, energy, effort and consistency. First, you may be too self absorbed as you're trying to feel better about you. Self-absorption often accompanies poor self-esteem. Our culture is obsessed with self-image. Christians turn this into a false God. The focus becomes how everything relates to "me." Take some steps to become more other centered. Do something for someone else with no expectations of gratitude. Volunteer some time at a nursing home. There are people around you who are worse off than you are. Second, your having worth and value is secured because you are made in God's image, not because of something you can do or a skill you have. Your worth and value does not wane or fluctuate but your feelings do. Third, begin to live your life with that truth in mind. When the feelings of low self-esteem approach, deny them footing. Remind them you belong to the Lord and you refuse to entertain them. You wouldn't knowingly take poison. Those feeling are toxic. Lastly, ask the Lord to grant you the power to repent. Repent means to turn in another direction. He must supply that power. Make choices daily to honor him in how you perceive you. The professionals at the Rice - Lewis Clinic are available to help you work on this area of concern. Answered by: Maurine Richardson, M.S.W. |