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More than ever people are feeling hassled, worn out, and out of control. Family, church, school, job and community demand time and attention leaving many of us feeling like walking zombies. Setting limits with the people in our lives and for ourselves can be confusing. Just as fences set physical property lines around our land, we need to set limits, or boundaries in our lives. Boundaries define you. They define what is you and what is not you. A boundary shows where you end and someone else begins, leading to a sense of ownership of your own thoughts, feelings, and actions. Boundaries teach you who and what you are responsible for, as well as who and what you are not responsible for. Knowing and practicing this leads to a sense of freedom in your life. If your having difficulty setting limits with a spouse or child, a boss or co-worker, or those in your community at large - feeling the need to always please others or feeling guilty when saying no, you may need some help setting boundaries. For additional information, contact The Rice - Lewis Clinic. Answered by: Joan Hemingway, M.S.W. |