Half Hearted Love Hurts

Question: My wife recently left me and filed for divorce. I still love her and want to reconcile. She only feels indifference towards me. What are your suggestions? Answer: I commend your desire to save your marriage. Facing resentments, hurt, anger and choosing to forgive can open the way to marital restoration. In his book, LOVE LIFE, Ed Wheat, M.D. , has designed a practical course of action when only one partner is committed to saving the marriage. It is call the "B.E.S.T" plan. B. Bless your mate by speaking well of her. Refrain from criticizing her. E. Edify your mate giving of yourself and your time; by listening to her; and by being emotionally present with her. S. Share with your mate. Evaluate where you can be doing more things together. T. Touch your mate in non-sexual ways. Physical touching is absolutely necessary to a healthy marriage. Answered by: Maurine Richardson, M.S.W.