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I have been involved in a series of adulterous relationships during my ten years of marriage. My spouse is fed up with my behavior and threatens to leave me. I want to be faithful. What can I do to prove I am serious about restoring our marriage. First, restoration of a marriage relationship requires stark honesty. You start by being honest with yourself about the seriousness of your problem. This is called “breaking out of denial.” Secondly, assure your spouse that you are serious about changing your behavior by being accountable and available at all times. Trust must be earned. Thirdly, engage in open, assertive communication with your mate. Sexual promiscuity is frequently a direct result of long standing communication difficulties. Attending a communications seminar for couples could prove very beneficial to your situation. Fourth, commit to biblical standards for your life and marriage. Lastly, obtain professional help. You are not struggling with a temporary problem. Your behavior appears to be habitual and indicates addictive needs. Since a major dynamic common to addictions is deception, you may experience some difficulty being open to the self-analysis involved in counseling. Answered by: Maurine Richardson, M.S.W. |